We often are confused as to how fast the times goes and often we are insensitive to how others spend their time.
Perhaps you heard of the husband who came home late from work one night to find his wife sitting in the den reading a magazine. Glancing around he noticed that the house was a disaster. The beds were unmade, laundry was strewn about, dishes were piled high in the sink. "What happened?” he asked his wife. “Well”, she responded, “ You know how you always wonder what I do all day … here it is... I didn’t do it!”
Thanks to multi-tasking many people today are engaged in activity traps. They are in perpetual motion racing, running, scooting from one task to the next. Their plan is to fit in as much as they possibly can into each day. Of course at the end of the day they are exhausted; they are bone tired, dog tired, over-tired. Their day is like a giant pin ball game, where several more balls are added to the game every
few hours. They ricochet faster and faster so that the game not only becomes more complex, but more harrowing. Eventually you stop playing the game, because it overwhelms you. To help your life be less overwhelming, here are some time management tips:
#1 Realize that if everything is important nothing is important. You therefore have to make a list every night of what you want to accomplish the next day. Then divide that list into two. Head one list, “will do” and the other one “might do.” Make the “will do” list very short…one or two items. Too many of us note down all that we ambitiously hope to accomplish on one list and then feel frustrated if we only check off one or two completed items. This system will help you prioritize and ease some of the anxiety we feel when we just don’t do all we hoped to.
#2 Plan for each and every day, even if you intend to do nothing. So many people fail to understand that rest and recreation are part of the re-generative rhythm of life. If all you are about is your work…you can’t be good at your work. Balance is key. So never underestimate the value of relaxation and fun. It is not productive to run any machine until it overheats and breaks down. But, remember that free time has to be planned for too, or else you just won’t get around to it. You don’t find time…you make time.
#3 Make a commitment not to major in the minors. Remember the time you spend on making the decision has to be equal to the importance of the decision. Does it really matter if you have spaghetti or linguini for dinner?
#4 Get organized. Use one calendar model for everything going on in your life. Since being able to pick up the kids from soccer practice might hinge on a late meeting at work, you need to see it all at a glance. Woody Allen once said, organization pays off. Though they don’t have to buy office supplies, it’s not a secret that organized crime in America takes in well over $40 billion dollars a year.
#5 Try to live as happily as you can on a day to day basis. Don’t put everything you’ve got into one event down the road. Doing that usually results in a feeling of disappointment. I am not saying don’t plan for tomorrow…but do indeed try to enjoy each and every day.
#6 Understand that there is a positive connection between time and love. If you feel that someone doesn’t love you, it is most likely because they are not spending enough time with you. Remember this correlation in terms of those you want to feel loved by you.
Good times, bad times, right times, wrong times…these are the only times we’ve got. Make the best of them.